How often do you criticize yourself? Or find yourself humiliating your own intelligence when you make a mistake? Questions like, ‘Why can’t I do this?’ or ‘ Why do I keep failing?’ are always there to make you feel that you are not good enough. Moreover, you feel as you get older, things get harder. So your self-doubt begins to expand, and empowering yourself becomes essential to get back on track.

By empowering yourself, it means making positive and confident choices and trusting in your abilities to execute those choices. When you are self-empowered, you understand your strengths and weaknesses in a better manner and are motivated to learn and achieve.

So, let’s look at some of the easy remedies which we can use to empower ourselves during tough times or bad days.

1. Find your driving force.

Beating yourself up worsens any situation rather than changing it for good. It’s what you strive for next that matters the most. And to work on that thing that matters the most, you need to regain your driving force. After all, things become often easier when you’re in the mood to do them. And this mood comes when you have a driving force that keeps you motivated to work towards your goals. This force can be anything; from your dreams to your relationships to even non-living things. Your driving force makes you enthusiastic and motivated. Just like the fuel of a vehicle that keeps the vehicle running.

For example, you work day and night in your job because you need money. Here money is the driving force that makes you work for your job.

2. Focus on creating your own story.

Instead of reading, watching, and judging someone else’s story, focus on creating your own story. Comparison ruins everything. It is No. 1 on my list of reasons that make me sad. It has the power to steal joy even on the best of occasions. I admit that it’s too difficult in this world not to compare yourself with others. Still, we can not be always right when we compare ourselves to others just from their online achievements to our inner-most tragedies. No one has any idea what’s happening behind the scenes. Then is it right to compare?

Your only competition is you. Outdoing yourself should be your daily task, and that’s where your comparison should be done.

Also read: How to stop comparing yourself to others?

3. Celebrate your achievements.

If you were asked to “make a list of what you have done right” vs “what you have done wrong”, I am sure that the second list will be longer. The reason being we are always hard on ourselves. We are our biggest critics. We remember everything that we’ve done wrong, but hardly ever think about the things we’ve done right. Being too self-critical robs us of our confidence as well as happiness.

Rather you should start telling yourself what you love about yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back every now and then, to celebrate your small wins. You’ve done things some people said you couldn’t do. You’ve done things even you thought you couldn’t do. That is enough to be proud of yourself. You’ve fought hard to get where you are today. Acknowledging this will bring peace and contentment to you and to can empower you.

4. Take the next small step.

When you don’t know what to do now, do the next easiest thing that you know you can do. Reaching a roof requires climbing stair step by step, instead of jumping to the roof.

5. Embrace your uniqueness.

Authenticity has become rare these days. Many of our choices and actions are at the suggestion of someone else. Since our beliefs are a way of convincing ourselves whether a given fact is true or not, make sure to believe that you are unique. Your individuality is a blessing. So, don’t let your individuality get taken away from you, just so you can fit in with the rest of society. Appreciate your uniqueness. 

6. Distance yourself from those who bring you down.

Your environment matters in your progress as much as your other talents. And this environment contains different types of people. You should pick people who are supportive, not destructive. People who raise your vibes inspire you to be good and do good. While some other types of people are always there to see a flaw in you.

7. Make yourself a priority.

We always learn to care about how others feel about us but we avoid focusing on how we feel about ourselves. Take some time out for yourself to recharge yourself. Do something every day that makes you happy. Invest in the activities you deeply care about. Be kind and compassionate not just for others but for yourself too. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, for your worst decisions and for your grumpy moods.

8. Write down your overwhelming thoughts.

A lot of thoughts are always there to make you feel worried. Thoughts of doubt, criticism, lack of something, fear etc. Writing such thoughts on paper or journal help in clearing your mind.

9. Show gratitude.

Being grateful is one of the simplest, and yet most effective, habits you can cultivate in order to be more empowered. By counting your blessings daily, you condition your mind to look for the good in everything around you. And in no time, you’ll unconsciously begin to see the bright side of things and feel better about life.

10. Be consistent

When you are fully committed to something, you can get things done easily because of your consistency and dedication. Consistency shows your commitment to a goal. If you are committed enough, then only you can get ready to roll out of bed in the early hours even when you don’t want to do it anyway. And if you’re not consistent enough in your actions, then you should not assume that you’ll see the final results as you are expecting. Your consistent efforts are worth the rewards that come later.


The most important person in your life is you. So learn to take care of yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company, rather than relying on others. Encourage positive self-talk. Become your own support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. It doesn’t matter whether you are important to other people or not, you have to be important to yourself. Something better is coming. So keep going through self-empowerment.

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